You know how it is in India — whether it’s a roadside chai stall, a train journey, or a family gathering, someone always wants to argue about something. Politics, cricket, Bollywood, or even how chai should be made — there’s no topic too small for a heated debate.
This year, I’ve decided I’m not playing along.
When someone insists that 2 + 2 equals 5, I’m just going to smile, nod, and say, “Haan bhai, sahi bola (Yes, you’re absolutely right).”
Why?
Because peace of mind is priceless, and I’ve finally understood the power of letting go.
The Chaotic Classroom of Life
Growing up, I was the kind of person who loved correcting people. If someone said something incorrect, I’d jump in faster than a teacher with a red pen.
I thought it was my duty to educate the world.
But life is not a classroom.
People don’t ‘always’ want to learn — they want to win.
I realized this after one too many arguments with uncles at weddings, neighbors in WhatsApp groups, and even strangers on Twitter.
No matter how logical or factual my points were, nobody was ever convinced. And worst of all, it left me mentally drained and irritated.
The Rickshaw-Wala’s Wisdom
The turning point came last year during a rickshaw ride. My driver was passionately explaining why he believed the ‘Earth is flat’. At first, I tried to counter him with science, but his counterarguments were… let’s say, creative.
Midway through the conversation, I realized: why am I doing this to myself? Whether the Earth is round or flat, his belief isn’t going to change my life.
So, I simply said, “Sahi bol rahe ho bhaiya (You’re absolutely right, brother).”
He grinned, satisfied, and the rest of the ride was peaceful.
That’s when it hit me — peace is not about proving you’re right; it’s about knowing when to walk away.
Saving My Energy for What Matters
In our desi culture, we’re surrounded by “gyanis” (self-proclaimed experts). From relatives giving unsolicited career advice to neighbors sharing conspiracy theories, everyone has something to say.
This year, my mantra is simple: conserve energy.
If someone says 2 + 2 = 5, I’ll agree. If they say eating two almonds every morning cures cancer, I’ll nod. If they declare that their favorite actor deserves the Bharat Ratna, I’ll smile and move on.
Not because I agree, but because my time and mental peace are more valuable than a meaningless debate.
Let Them Be, and Let Me Be
In India, we have a saying: Log kya kahenge? (What will people say?) For years, this phrase ruled my life.
I cared too much about what others thought and felt the need to correct them when they were wrong.
But now, I’ve flipped the script. Log kuch bhi kahen, mujhe kya? (People can say whatever they want — why should I care?)
Letting people be themselves, even when they’re wrong, is liberating. It’s not my job to change anyone’s beliefs. My only job is to protect my peace.
The Secret to Peace: Minding My Own Business
The moment I stopped worrying about proving my point, I felt lighter. Life isn’t about convincing everyone to see things your way. It’s about focusing on what makes you happy.
I’ve learned that peace comes from within, not from winning arguments or proving someone wrong. By minding my own business, I’ve reclaimed my time, energy, and sanity.
The Art of “Haan Bhai”
So, here’s my New Year’s resolution: if someone says 2 + 2 equals 5, I’ll say, “Haan bhai, bilkul sahi (Yes, you’re absolutely right).”
I’m not giving up on truth; I’m choosing to prioritize my mental well-being.
After all, in a country as lively and opinionated as ours, peace isn’t about being right — it’s about knowing when to say, “Haan bhai” and move on.
Here’s to a year of fewer arguments, more smiles, and the ultimate power move: not caring.
Cheers!
